微笑到底有多重要

　刚刚读完迷男的新书《把妹达人》（不是型男那本），非常棒的一本书。令我映像最深刻的是第八章——迷男在这里谈到了打招呼和微笑的重要性。看这一章的时候让我回想起当我第一次在菜鸟训练营见到迷男，斗牛士和发现的时候。当时我记得很清楚他们三个人都不约而同的给我一样的建议——“多多的微笑，多笑”。发现对我说我应该提供更多的能量。迷男说“多多的散发能量，散发正能量，这样别人就不会因为潜意识里的歧视而排斥你，让自己有趣起来，多笑”。斗牛士因为是亚裔所以曾经有过和我一样的问题。因为是亚裔他也曾经经常被刻意排斥，被歧视。这就要求我们多笑，变得更有意思，更有趣，否则是无法赢得白人女孩的青睐的。
　　
　　所以我采纳了他们的建议，在菜鸟训练营的培训结束后，每天晚上当我要准备出去实战的时候，我总是不忘先提醒并练习一下我的气场。用微笑来投射一个友好，有趣，积极，自信的气场在我周围。这种练习之后的效果是非常明显的，瞬间感觉世界变了，人们更多的朝我友善的微笑，更容易接纳我，更愿意和我互动等等。
　　
　　我记得有一次我搭讪一个来自澳大利亚的金发辣妹，后来她变成了我的GF。当我问她“为什么，离开她的朋友跑来找我并把我邀请去她的卡座时”。她的回答很简单：“她喜欢我的微笑”。而我只是在路过她们卡座的时候友善的微笑了一下而已。现在微笑已经在我逐渐的练习下成为了一种习惯，我的人际关系完全改变了。我感觉我的生活整个改变了。不光是把妹。还有还有，我现在每次出去前都用高露洁健齿白好好的刷刷牙。这样可以让我的笑容更加的动人。
　　
　　这里是我根据我自己的实践经历给出的一些训练要点，希望能够帮到大家
　　——每天早起早起刷牙后在镜子前练习笑容3分钟
　　——选择一个自己看着最自然最舒服最阳光，并且记住它
　　——走出家门在见到每一个熟人的时候都有意识的提醒自己使用并测试它
　　——确保你在打开组合的时候微笑，并且不断的用微笑勾勒一个温暖的友好的气场
　　——如果你的牙齿因为吸烟有污渍，或者齿型不齐什么的，建议你尽早咨询牙医，终身幸福啊兄弟。

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Just finished reading the Pick Up Artist (the new book) good read. The part that really stuck out for me was chapter eight when Mystery talks about the importance of smiling and saying hi. It reminded me of when I did my first VA boot camp. I had the benefit of Mystery, Matador and Discovery, three master trainers teaching me. What was important and shocking was that they all gave me the same feedback…”Dan, you need to smile more.” They all told me in their own way. Discovery mentioned that I should be the flame more. Mystery said that in order to avoid stereotypical judgements from other people, being a black guy, I should show off those pearly whites and smile BIG…be fun. Matador could relate to me and said it was similar for him coming up in the game, being of Asian descent. He was stereotyped too, but also he had to work on smiling more and being more fun.
So what I did was immediately after my boot camp, each night when I out practicing my stack Id make sure I would project a fun, positive, friendly vibe by smiling. What I noticed immediately was that suddenly people were more receptive and were warming to me more, always smiling back.…I remember a cute blonde Australian chick that I made out with, who later became a gf … after I asked her why she got her friend to run come find me and bring me back to her set (initially I had just flashed a smile as I walked past her set in a London club) and her reason was that she liked my smile. That was all the evidence I needed from the field to make it a habit. Now I always brush my teeth before I go out with Colgate whitening toothpaste.
Here’s a daily plan you can use right away to train yourself to communicate the right non-verbal signals with your face:

1.Practice smiling in front of a mirror
2.Choose the smile that looks most natural and pleasant
3.Go out in field and work it.
4.MAKE SURE you smile when you first open a set and in-between sets whilst constantly portraying a warm, friendly vibe.
5.If you are not confident about your teeth for whatever reason, pay a quick visit to a dentist. It’s worth it.