Just finished reading the Pick Up Artist (the new book) good read. The part that really stuck out for me was chapter eight when Mystery talks about the importance of smiling and saying hi. It reminded me of when I did my first VA boot camp. I had the benefit of Mystery, Matador and Discovery, three master trainers teaching me. What was important and shocking was that they all gave me the same feedback…”Dan, you need to smile more.” They all told me in their own way. Discovery mentioned that I should be the flame more. Mystery said that in order to avoid stereotypical judgements from other people, being a black guy, I should show off those pearly whites and smile BIG…be fun. Matador could relate to me and said it was similar for him coming up in the game, being of Asian descent. He was stereotyped too, but also he had to work on smiling more and being more fun.
So what I did was immediately after my boot camp, each night when I out practicing my stack Id make sure I would project a fun, positive, friendly vibe by smiling. What I noticed immediately was that suddenly people were more receptive and were warming to me more, always smiling back.…I remember a cute blonde Australian chick that I made out with, who later became a gf … after I asked her why she got her friend to run come find me and bring me back to her set (initially I had just flashed a smile as I walked past her set in a London club) and her reason was that she liked my smile. That was all the evidence I needed from the field to make it a habit. Now I always brush my teeth before I go out with Colgate whitening toothpaste.
Here’s a daily plan you can use right away to train yourself to communicate the right non-verbal signals with your face:
1.Practice smiling in front of a mirror
2.Choose the smile that looks most natural and pleasant
3.Go out in field and work it.
4.MAKE SURE you smile when you first open a set and in-between sets whilst constantly portraying a warm, friendly vibe.
5.If you are not confident about your teeth for whatever reason, pay a quick visit to a dentist. It’s worth it.
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