20.Going into an interview...be interested in your interviewers.
If you focus on learning about them you seem more interesting and dynamic. (Again, people love to talk about themselves.)
参加面试时，多关注一下面试者。
如果你专注于了解对方，他们会觉得你更有趣、更有活力。（再次强调，人们总是喜欢谈论自己。）
21.Pay Attention Parents: Always give your kid a choice that makes them think they are in control.
For instance when I want him to put his shoes on I will say ,"do you want to put your star wars shoes on or your shark shoes on?"Pro-tip: In some cases, this works on adults.
家长们注意了：经常给孩子们选择的机会，让他们觉得自己能掌控自己的生活。
例如如果我想让孩子穿上鞋，我会问他：“你是想穿星球大战那双鞋还是鲨鱼那双？”
友情提示：这招有时候对大人也很管用。
22.Your action affect your attitudes more than your attitudes affect your actions.
As my former teacher said "You can jump and dance FOR joy, but you can also jump and dance yourself joyful."
行动对态度的影响比态度对行动的影响更大。
就像我以前的老师说过的：“你可以因为快乐而手舞足蹈，但你也可以又蹦又跳地让自己开心起来。”
23.When a group of people laugh, people will instinctively look at the person they feel closest to in that group.
当一群人在笑的时候，人们会本能地去看这群人中感觉最亲近的那个。
24.If you want to build rapport or gain someone's trust quickly, match their body posture and position.
If someone is sitting with her legs crossed cross your legs. If they're leaning away from you lean away from them. If they're leaning towards you, lean towards them. Mirroring and matching body position is a subconscious way to tell if someone trusts you or is comfortable with you. If you're sitting with your arms crossed and you notice someone else is sitting with her arms crossed, that is a good indicator that you have/are successfully built/building rapport with that person.
如果你想要建立更融洽的关系，或者让别人更快信任你，模仿他们的身体姿势。
如果他们双腿交叉而坐，那你也双腿交叉；如果他们身体向后倾，你也向后倾；如果他们身体靠向你，你就靠向他们。模仿身体姿势是一种潜意识的行为，你可以以此判断某人是否信任你，或者和你在一起自不自在。如果你抱臂而坐，然后发现其他人也抱臂而坐，这是说明你和他的关系很亲近，或者正在变得亲近。
25.The Benjamin Franklin Effect (suggested by Matt Miller)
The pencil one may seem far-fetched but I find the basis of it (the Benjamin Franklin effect) is very useful and extends far beyond pencil borrowing. This knowledge is useful in the world of flirting too. Asking a girl in your class if you can borrow a pencil or her notes or to explain the homework will make her more likely to like you than if you let her borrow your stuff or are the one to help her. Even just asking a girl to buy you drinks (facetiously) leaves a much bigger impression than offering to or actually buying a girl a drink. The best part is it kills 3 birds with one stone: you get the advantages of the favor itself, the person subconsciously likes you more, and it makes them more open to future favors and conversation.
本杰明·富兰克林效应（来自Matt Miller）
借铅笔的办法看似牵强附会，但我发现这个方法的依据——本杰明·富兰克林效应——非常有用，而且能拓展到借铅笔之外的其它事情上，在与异性搭讪的时候也同样奏效。问下你班里的一个女生能不能借你一支铅笔或者笔记，或是给你讲解一下功课，会比你借她东西或帮她更能让她产生好感。即使是让她给你买一瓶饮料（有些滑稽哈），也会比你给她买一瓶饮料留下的印象更深。最妙之处在于这可是一石三鸟：你得到了你想要的帮助；这人在潜意识里更喜欢你；这让他们在你将来的求助或交谈中更为开放。
26.Handling Panic and Anxiety Behavior (Suggested by Jade Barbee)
When you're feeling stressed, worried or angry, tap each finger tip while thinking (or speaking quietly) a few specific words about what is bothering you. Repeat the same words while tapping each of your 10 fingers, including thumbs. For example, tap while saying, "I'm so angry with her..." Doing so will likely take the charge out of the feeling and return you to a more resourceful (better feeling) state of being. It's called EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) or "tapping," and it is useful in many, many life situations - emotional upset, physical pain, food cravings, traumatic memories...
如何控制恐惧和焦虑（来自Jade Barbee）
当你感觉压力巨大、焦虑不安或是生气的时候，用几个词来描述你的烦心事，每想或说出一个词，就轻轻敲一下一根手指，不断重复这几个词，同时敲打包括大拇指在内的十个手指。例如，边敲边说“我很生她的气……”。这能让你摆脱不好的情绪，变得更能随机应变，你的感觉也会更好。这被称为“情绪自由疗法（EFT）”或者“敲击法”，在许多生活状况下都有效，如心情抑郁、生理疼痛、饮食冲动、创伤记忆……
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