在这篇文章的开头提到了一个关键之处，从失败中创造成功的能力。通常你可以从那些注重结果导向或那些尽量避免失败的人身上看到。你更像哪类人呢？
让失败为你加分
<For the original English version of this posting, please go to bottom>
成功路上最大的路障即是对失败的恐惧。害怕失败比失败本身更糟，因为它会让你在人生中无法实现潜能。
如果成功地应对失败全取决于你处理的方式。最近发表在实验社会心理学期刊上的一个研究中，研究者发现在失败面前，成功来源于专注结果（你希望达到的目标），而不是努力不失败。在试着去尽可能规避失败的时候，这么做的人会比那些以积极心态专注于目标的人更容易失败。
“成功就是在一次次的失败之间跌跌撞撞继续前行，不失热情。”——温斯顿·丘吉尔（前英国首相）
听起来相当容易直观，但是当失败的后果很严重的时候就很难去做到了。研究者还发现好的反馈能够增加人成功的几率，因其供给了全心全意集中于目标时你所具有的积极性。
那些创造历史的人——真正的创新者——会走得更远，只把失败看作成功的垫脚石。托马斯·爱迪生就是个很好的例子。他尝试了一千次才做出那个正确的灯泡。当有人问他失败一千次是什么感觉时，他说，“我没有失败一千次。电灯泡是一项需要一千个步骤的发明而已。”
态度才是决定成功，而不是失败的关键。托马斯·爱迪生不是唯一的例子。J.K.罗琳的《哈利波特》手稿在被十二家出版商毙掉后才终于被接受，而且预付款少得可以忽略不计。奥普拉·温弗瑞丢过巴尔的摩新闻主播的工作，因为她对故事过于感情用事，这项品质后来成为了她的著名标志。亨利·福特在得以制作出一个能跑的汽车原型之前曾两次失去资金援助。这样的例子还有很多很多。
“如果你觉得你可以做到一件事或者做不成一件事，你总是对的。”——亨利·福特
所以，对那些因失败而偏离轨道，与那些成功用失败为自己加分的人区分开来的人来说，是什么造就了这一切呢？有一部分原因是自己的所为，其他则可被归结于所思。
你在失败面前采取的行动很大程度上决定了你有多大能力从失败中爬起来，也会对他人怎么看待你和你的失误产生巨大的影响。以下五项举措是你在失败时所必须采取的，它们将会助你在未来获得成功，也能让他人不因失败而不再看好你。
亲自宣布坏消息。如果你犯了错，不要祈祷暗自希望没人会发现，因为总会有人发现——这无可避免。如果是别人指出了你的错误，一个失败也会变成两个。保持沉默的话，人们会奇怪你为什么什么也不说，然后他们就很可能把这种沉默归于胆怯或是无知。
解释，但不要掩饰。痛快承认错误其实能提升个人形象，展现你的自信、可靠和正直。只是要确保实事求是。“我们失去这个客户是因为我错过了截止日期”就是一个理由。“我们失去这个客户是因为我的狗整个周末都在生病，我就错过了截止日期”则是个借口。
制定补救方案。坦白错误是一方面，但是不能就此止步。接下来的举动至关重要。不要站在那等别人来收拾你的烂摊子，拿出自己的解决方案。如果你能告诉你的老板（或者别的什么人）你已经为修复局面做出的具体行动就更好了。
备好预防措施。除了补救方案之外，你还得有一个在未来如何去避免犯同样错误的计划。这是让他人安心、保证失败后会有好的产出的最好的办法。
重振旗鼓。不要让失败使你怯懦。陷入这种心态会让你每次不小心出差错时犯下大过。花上足够的时间去汲取失败的教训，一完成就回到原地重新开始。等待只会延长糟糕的感受，增加心烦意乱的可能。
你面对失败的态度就和采取的举措一样重要。想让失败变优势，需要恢复力和强韧的心理，它们都是情商的证明。失败时还有三种你希望保持的态度：
视角是应对失败最重要的因素之一。那些擅于在失败后重新振作的人更倾向于把失败归于他们的所为——错误的做法或是某次失察——而不是他们本身。那些不善应对失败的人则更容易怪罪到他们的懒惰、缺乏智慧，或是其他的一些个人素质。这意味着他们没有掌握局面的能力，这种能力的缺乏使得他们在未来更不易承担风险。
乐观是东山再起之人的另一特征。一项针对576名连续创业者所做的研究发现他们会比第一次失败了就放弃的创业者更易于去期盼成功。这种乐观会让人们不觉得失败会是恒久的一种状况。相反，他们会把每次失败视为最终垒起成功之塔的砖石，因为失败给予了学习的机会。
坚持。乐观是一种积极的感受；坚持是你怀揣乐观去做的事。坚持是付诸行动的乐观。就算所有人都说“真受够了“然后决定退出回家，坚持的人也会无视失败继续前行。坚持的人是特别的，因为他们的乐观之心不死。坚持让他们长于从失败中重振雄风。
总结一下
失败是个人视角的产物。一个人觉得溃不成军的事，另外一人只认为是小小挫折。妙处在于，你可以改变看待失败的方式，让失败为你加分。
你是怎么面对失败的呢？请在下方评论区分享你的想法，我在传授经验的同时也能从你那里学到一些东西。
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The beginning of this article mentions a very key point that’s related to your ability to produce success from failures. That’s whether you’re someone who focuses more on getting results or someone who mainly tries not to fail when you do something. Which one describes you more?
How To Use Failure To Your Advantage
One of the biggest roadblocks to success is the fear of failure. Fear of failure is worse than failure itself because it condemns you to a life of unrealized potential.
A successful response to failure is all in your approach. In a study recently published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, researchers found that success in the face of failure comes from focusing on results (what you hope to achieve), rather than trying not to fail. While it’s tempting to try and avoid failure, people who do this fail far more often than those who optimistically focus on their goals.
“Success is stumbling from failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm.” –Winston Churchill
This sounds rather easy and intuitive, but it’s very hard to do when the consequences of failure are severe. The researchers also found that positive feedback increased people’s chances of success because it fueled the same optimism you experience when focusing solely on your goals.
The people who make history—true innovators—take things a step further and see failure as a mere stepping stone to success. Thomas Edison is a great example. It took him 1,000 tries to develop a light bulb that actually worked. When someone asked him how it felt to fail 1,000 times, he said, “I didn’t fail 1,000 times. The light bulb was an invention with 1,000 steps.”
That attitude is what separates the successes from the failures. Thomas Edison isn’t the only one. J. K. Rowling’s manuscript for Harry Potter was only accepted after twelve publishers denied it, and even then she was only paid a nominal advance. Oprah Winfrey lost her job as a Baltimore news anchor for becoming too emotionally involved in her stories, a quality that became her trademark. Henry Ford lost his financial backers twice before he was able to produce a workable prototype of an automobile. The list goes on and on.
“If you think you can do a thing or think you can’t do a thing, you’re right.” –Henry Ford
So, what separates the people who let their failures derail them from those who use failure to their advantage? Some of it comes down to what you do, and the rest comes down to what you think.
The actions you take in the face of failure are critical to your ability to recover from it, and they have huge implications for how others view you and your mistakes. There are five actions you must take when you fail that will enable you to succeed in the future and allow others to see you positively in spite of your failure.
Break the bad news yourself. If you’ve made a mistake, don’t cross your fingers and hope that no one will notice, because someone is going to—it’s inevitable. When someone else points out your failure, that one failure turns into two. If you stay quiet, people are going to wonder why you didn’t say something, and they’re likely to attribute this to either cowardice or ignorance.
Offer an explanation, but don’t make excuses. Owning your mistakes can actually enhance your image. It shows confidence, accountability, and integrity. Just be sure to stick to the facts. “We lost the account because I missed the deadline” is a reason. “We lost the account because my dog was sick all weekend and that made me miss the deadline” is an excuse.
Have a plan for fixing things. Owning up to a mistake is one thing, but you can’t end it there. What you do next is critical. Instead of standing there, waiting for someone else to clean up your mess, offer your own solutions. It’s even better if you can tell your boss (or whomever) the specific steps that you’ve already taken to get things back on track.
Have a plan for prevention. In addition to having a plan for fixing things, you should also have a plan for how you’ll avoid making the same mistake in the future. That’s the best way to reassure people that good things will come out of your failure.
Get back on the horse. It’s important that you don’t let failure make you timid. That’s a mindset that sucks you in and handicaps you every time you slip up. Take enough time to absorb the lessons of your failure, and as soon as you’ve done that, get right back out there and try again. Waiting only prolongs bad feelings and increases the chance that you’ll lose your nerve.
Your attitude when facing failure is just as important as the actions you take. Using failure to your advantage requires resilience and mental strength, both hallmarks of emotional intelligence. When you fail, there are three attitudes you want to maintain.
Perspective is the most important factor in handling failure. People who are skilled at rebounding after failure are more likely to blame the failure on something that they did—the wrong course of action or a specific oversight—rather than something that they are. People who are bad at handling failure tend to blame failure on their laziness, lack of intelligence, or some other personal quality, which implies that they had no control over the situation. That makes them more likely to avoid future risk-taking.
Optimism is another characteristic of people who bounce back from failure. One British study of 576 serial entrepreneurs found that they were much more likely to expect success than entrepreneurs who gave up after their first failure. That sense of optimism is what keeps people from feeling like failure is a permanent condition. Instead, they tend to see each failure as a building block to their ultimate success because of the learning it provides.
Persistence. Optimism is a feeling of positivity; persistence is what you do with it. It’s optimism in action. When everybody else says, “Enough is enough” and decides to quit and go home, persistent people shake off those failures and keep going. Persistent people are special because their optimism never dies. This makes them great at rising from failure.
Bringing It All Together
Failure is a product of your perspective. What one person considers a crushing defeat, another sees as a minor setback. The beauty is that you can change how you see failure so that you can use it to better yourself.
How do you handle failure? Please share your thoughts in the comments section below as I learn just as much from you as you do from me.
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