网友：法师，遇到在众人面前发言，重大活动，或者进入面试就非常紧张，睡不好觉，是不是因为我见太重，自我的意识太重？应该如何减缓这种情绪？顶礼合十。
学诚法师：紧张来源于希望得到肯定、害怕做得不好而破坏形象。把这种心态收敛一下，将注意力放在所说的内容上，因上努力，果上随缘。
Q: Master, I am often too nervous to sleep well before making public speeches, attending important events or going to interviews. Is it caused by egoism? What should I do to eliminate the pressure? Thank you so much.
A: You felt nervous because you expected to be recognized by other people, so you were afraid of losing face if you couldn’t do it well. Try to change this mentality, and focus your attention on what you will say. Do your best, and then accept any outcome calmly.
网友：请教法师，为什么我总是人多时或者正式场合讲话会非常紧张？是不自信还是少见识？怎么样才能平其心论当下之事？
学诚法师：是因为太爱护自己，怕破坏自己的形象。我爱执，放下一分，便能自在一分。
Q: Master, why do I always feel nervous when speaking in public or at formal occasions? Is it because I don’t have self-confidence or sufficient experience? How can I keep calm to do current things well?
A: It is because we care too much about ourselves. We are afraid of damaging our images. If we let go egoism a little, then we will feel at ease a little.
网友：以前自己不爱说话的弱点暴露得很厉害，遭到同事的鄙病和攻击，一直没还口。结果无法忍受，换了很多单位，始终成为一种心病。越来越深，别人通过我的言行就能感觉我很“惨”，无人再与我正常交流，一直无法翻身。痛苦中。法师能明示吗？不甚感激。
学诚法师：不爱说话能少造很多口业，多为他人付出就好。
Q: I was criticized and attacked for this weakness by my previous colleagues. I never answered back, but couldn’t stand it for very long, and so I have changed many jobs. However, it has been a long secret trouble growing deeper in my heart. Other people can tell my “misery” from my words and behaviors, and no one would like to communicate with me. I can’t find a solution to change it. How painful it is! Master, could you instruct me what to do? Thank you very much.
A: Talking little can reduce much bad karma caused by speech. It would be good if you can do more for other people.
网友：法师，我想了好久却找不到原因。为什么我和别人说话总是没有底气。即使我的语言再有力量，但是给我说出来就软了一截，这使我在工作和生活中有了很大的困惑。能帮帮我吗？
学诚法师：这是因为过去语业不够清净，无法产生令人信服的威德力。要努力远离绮语、妄语、两舌、恶口等语不善业，多说善语、实语、柔软语，慢慢改善。
Q: Master, I have been thinking it over long but still not found a reason. Why can’t I be strong when talking to other people? Even if the words I said were powerful, they became weak when I spoke. It bothers me a lot during my work and daily life. Could you help me?
A: It is the karmic consequence of your past false or improper words, which makes you not convincing now. We should try to avoid chatting, lying, slandering, and abusive words. Talk more in kind, honest and soft tongues, and the situation you mentioned will be improved gradually.
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