分手后

After Breaking Up – How To Overcome Separation And Loneliness

分手后 - 如何克服分离和孤独

1. Accept (no matter what) that it is over, and that you have to move on to another phase in life.

接受（不管是什么），这结束了，你必须走向人生的另一个阶段。

After all, one of the biggest failures of people whose partners have walked away from them, is their inability to accept the separation or accept that the person wants to move on.

毕竟，人们的伴侣离开是他们最大的失败之一，是他们无法接的分离或接受的人希望继续前进。

2. Accept that loneliness is normal.

接受寂寞是正常的。

One of the worst things that you can do after a separation is crying yourself out because you are going to be lonely.

对，你可以在分离后做的最糟糕的事情是自己哭出来，因为你会很孤单。

It will be ok to cry, but cry only because you can’t believe you had wasted so much of your time with a jerk that was not really worth your time anyway.

哭是可以的，但只是哭，因为你无法相信你已经浪费了这么多时间来哭泣，这是不是真的值得你花时间呢。

3. Do not try to force yourself to forget the person.

不要试图强迫自己忘记别人。

It will be ok to remember them, but focus on the bad, the drama, the pain, the stress, the misery, and the humiliating aspects of that relationship you had with them.

你记住他们是可以的，但是专注于坏的方面，戏剧性，痛苦，压力，不幸，和你与他们羞辱的关系方面。

4. Do not call, text or show your emotional side to them.

不要打电话，发短信或发你的照片给他们。

In most cases, when a guy or a girl dumps you, he or she my indirectly tests their emotional control by waiting for you to call his or her phone first to find out why they did what they did or what went wrong in the relationship. From the moment you calls him or her with that clumsiness or start giving your ex updates about your life, I can tell that he or she would be smiling on the other cheek because it tells them that you are weak and that you can’t do without him or her.

在大多数情况下，当一个人或一个女孩倾注你，他或她会间接地等着你先打电话给他或她的电话，了解他们做了什么或者什么地方出了问题在恋爱中。从那刻，你打电话他会让你的生活因为前任而更新，我可以告诉大家，他或她会在另一边微笑着，因为它告诉他们，你很软弱，你不能没有他或她。

5. No matter what, do not rush into another relationship.

无论什么时候，不要急于开始另一段恋爱。

Some people think that if they call and spend time with the other guy or girl that was hanging on at the side of them, they would get some emotional help. Some even rush into romancing the new kid on the block that they give their email or phone number to a few weeks before their break up.

有些人认为，如果他们打电话和花时间与其他男生还是女生在一起会让另一边想自尽，他们会得到一些情绪化的帮助。有些人甚至想冲进浪漫里，他们会给另一边电子邮件或电话在分手前几个星期。

And if you did, I would like you to tell me how you did it.

如果你做到了，我希望你能告诉我你是怎么做的。

From:www.lifehack.org