'You are the only one who can make you happy.' We have all heard that so many times in our lives.
“你是唯一一个可以让自己幸福的人。”我们生命中已经多次听到这样的话。
Moods and temporary emotions are not the same as happiness. Happiness exists when you look at the overall picture of your life and you smile. You know those times when you can't wait for your children to go to bed, then later you check on the kids and you almost cry because they look exactly like angels, sleeping so sweetly and soundly. You can hardly remember a time of irritation with them. That is Happiness.
心情和暂时的情感都是不能和幸福相提并论的。幸福存在于你看到生活的整个画面时，会面带微笑。有时候，你没时间等待孩子入睡，可是后来去检查他们睡得是否安好时，你几乎热泪盈眶，因为他们像天使一样，睡得如此香甜。你几乎不记得他们曾有让你生气的时候了。这才是幸福。
As life progresses and changes, we realize that who we are, and what we are responsible for. We know that immediate gratification or irritation only pacifies or deteriorates our emotional stimuli in short term. Our global view of how we see ourselves determines our state of mind. Our state of mind determines our happiness.
随着生活的变化和提高，我们开始认识到我们是谁，我们的责任是什么。我们知道一时的满足或烦恼只能使我们的情绪得到短暂安慰或恶化。我们对自己的整体看法决定了我们的精神状态，而我们的精神状态又决定了我们的幸福。
So, how do we take control of our emotions and find the path of happiness? This seems to be a million-dollar question. There are tons of books on or related to the subject. You could read and practice until you are completely confused. Or, we could spend the rest of our life introspectively evaluating what makes us happy, which might take more time and energy and actually frustrate us more.
那么，我们要如何来控制我们的情绪，进而发现通往幸福的捷径呢？这似乎是一个价值连城的问题。已经有很多的书籍对这个主题进行了阐述或有所涉及。你可以读读这些书，并依此付诸实践，直到你彻底迷茫；或者，我们可以用余下的时间来反思和评估是什么让我们幸福。这些可能会占去我们更多的时间和精力，并带给我们更多的挫败。
How about this? We looked at ourselves and decided what we liked and didn't like and then set about making changes. It doesn't have to be major alterations. Maybe you are tired of your house but can't afford to move. Try painting the living room or buying flowers to set on the kitchen table. If you haven't had a vacation for awhile and just can't afford to take that cruise, go camping instead.
如果我们这样做呢？我们先自我审视一番，然后决定什么是我们喜欢的，什么是我们不喜欢的，接着开始改变。没有必要一定作出大的变化。例如，可能你厌倦了现在的房子，但是又没有钱搬新家，那么你可以试着给你的房间刷上新的油漆，或者买一些花放到你的餐桌上。可能你没有一个完整的长假去做长途旅行，那么你可以尝试去露营。
If your unhappiness stems from a situation beyond your control, then find other ways to compensate. If, for example, money is so tight and no apparent windfall is coming your way any time soon, find inexpensive entertainment. Backyard ballgames, picnics in the park, movie night with popcorn and snacks in your bedroom are a few alternatives to an expensive night out. If the issues are more serious and you feel powerless, that is the time to seek professional help.
如果你不幸福的原因来源于一种你无法控制的情形，那你可以寻找其他方法加以弥补。譬如，如果你生活拮据，又不太可能会突然大发横财，那就找比较便宜的娱乐方式，比如，后院足球、公园野餐、看电影吃爆米花或者在卧室享受零食。这些选择都能很好地代替晚上开销很大的出行。如果问题比较严重，而你又感到无力，这时就应该向专业人士寻求帮助了。
Otherwise, look in the mirror and be glad. If you don't like what you see, change it.
或者，照着镜子，让自己快乐起来。如果你不喜欢所看到的，那就去改变它。
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