你成年了吗？20个真正成年的标志

一个怎样的人才算真正的成年人？许多人直接用年龄来区分。当你与不同文化背景的人讨论这个话题，问题就会显现出来。如果你问他们：童年和成年的年龄分界线是多少岁时，他们会给你不同的答案。为什么会这样？因为每个人的回答都以自己的主观信念为根基。一个人是否已经成年，不取决于于年龄，而是取决于他的心性是否成熟。

那么，心性成熟，或者说成年人的标志是什么？以下是20代表性的特征。

1、意识到成熟不是稳定的状态，而是一个持续演化的过程，并且坚持不懈的提升自己。

2、能很好的引导自己的猜怨和嫉妒。

3、善于倾听，并能恰当的评价他人的观点。

4、耐心灵活的处理好自己的日常生活。

5、接受失败，从错误中学习，而非牢骚满腹。


6、拒绝毫无根据的负面观点，寻找积极的、有客观事实依据的观点。

7、用理性做决策，而非意气用事。

8、明白：机会只属于做好了准备的人。

9、能很好的控制自己的脾气和愤怒。

10、为他人着想，不以自我中心。


11、区分开自己的“需要”和“想要”。

12、自信而不自负。

13、沉着冷静的转化压力。

14、按自己的意志行动，并对自己的行为负责。

15、战胜恐惧。


16、能看到黑白之间的灰色，摒弃非好即坏的观念。

17、将负面反馈作为自我成长的契机。

18、有梦想，也有危机意识。

19、能区别真爱和一时的迷恋。

20、明白：开放自己去沟通，是成长的关键。

综上所述，真正的成年人，敢于承担责任，也勇于追求自己的梦想；他们能很好的分配自己的时间和精力，做到责任和梦想，二者兼得。

What is Adulthood? 20 Defining Characteristics of a True Adult

How can one classify a true adult? Many people directly attribute age to adulthood. The problem with this methodology becomes evident when you discuss the topic with various people of different cultural backgrounds. If you ask each of them what age they believe constitutes the point at which a person progresses from childhood into adulthood, their answers will always be different. Why? Because every one of the answers are based on subjective opinion. Adulthood is not based age; it’s based strictly on emotional maturity.

So what constitutes emotional maturity, and thus adulthood? Here are 20 defining characteristics of a true adult:

1. Realizing that maturity is an ongoing process, not a state, and continuously striving for self improvement.
   
   
2. Able to manage personal jealousy and feelings of envy.
   
   
3. Has the ability to listen to and evaluate the viewpoints of others.
   
   
4. Maintains patience and flexibility on a daily basis.
   
   
5. Accepts the fact that you can’t always win, and learns from mistakes instead of whining about the outcome.
   
   
6. Does not overanalyze negative points, but instead looks for the positive points in the subject being analyzed.
   
   
7. Is able to differentiate between rational decision making and emotional impulse.
   
   
8. Understands that no skill or talent can overshadow the act of preparation.
   
   
9. Capable of managing temper and anger.
   
   
10. Keeps other people’s feeling in mind and limits selfishness.
    
    
11. Being able to distinguish between ‘needs’ and ‘wants’.
    
    
12. 
    Shows confidence without being overly arrogant.
    
    
13. Handles pressure with self composure.
    
    
14. Takes ownership and responsibility of personal actions.
    
    
15. Manages personal fears.
    
    
16. Able to see the various shades of grey between the extremes of black and white in every situation.
    
    
17. Accepts negative feedback as a tool for self improvement.
    
    
18. Aware of personal insecurities and self-esteem.
    
    
19. Able to separate true love from transitory infatuation.
    
    
20. Understanding that open communication is the key to progression.
    
    

Above all, true adults do what they have to do when it is required of them, and they do what they want when they can. They are able to distinguish between the two and manage their time and efforts accordingly.