“没关系，有人说话就带来了光。”

这段文字是弗洛伊德   在《性学三论 Three Essays on the Theory of Sexuality 》（1905）中论述婴儿焦虑的起源时，无意中已经表达了客体关系的重要性。

我曾经听到一个3岁男孩在一间黑屋子里大叫：“阿姨，和我说话！我害怕，因为这里太黑了。”

阿姨回应道：“那样做有什么用？你又看不见我。”

儿童回答：“没关系，有人说话就带来了光。”

所以他害怕的不是黑暗，而是他所爱的人不在，只要他有证据表明那人在场，他就会平静下来。

英文原文如下：

For the explanation of the origin of the infantile fear I am indebted to a three-year-old boy whom I once heard calling from a dark room: 'Aunt, talk to me, I am afraid because it is dark.' 'How will that help you,' answered the aunt; 'you cannot see anyhow.' 'That's nothing,' answered the child; 'if some one talks then it becomes light.'—He was, as we see, not afraid of the darkness but he was afraid because he missed the person he loved, and he could promise to calm down as soon as he was assured of her presence.

虽然这只是出现在脚注里的一小段话，但却是客体关系理论最初的萌芽。