统计数据显示，大多数的两性关系从“热情、深情、热情”变成“emm还行吧”只需要18个月。在这段时间里，情侣之间的热欲之火开始冷却，他们开始怀疑是否应该继续保持这种恋爱关系。
新的研究表明，情侣之间的感情似乎脆弱到根本无法与可怕的七年之痒相提并论。一对 couple之间的恋爱保质期通常在两年左右。
很多情侣最后会选择分手。他们当中的大多数没有意识到变得有些平淡，只是恋爱关系中的一个阶段，这是整个过程的一部分而已，并且这种感觉会发生在所有的情侣之间。
The first mistake couples make is believing that when the “infatuated” feeling fades, it’s a sign that the love is fading as well.
情侣们犯的第一个错误就是——他们相信当“迷恋”的感觉消失时，爱也在消退。
When it comes to relationships, experts agree there are five distinct stages. Every relationship goes through these stages. The ones that last successfully make it through all five, but most relationships get stuck and fall apart during stage three.
专家们认为恋爱分为五个不同的阶段。每段感情都经历了这些阶段。有一些情侣成功地经历了这五个阶段，但是大部分都在第三阶段被卡住了。
mistake /mɪ'steɪk/ n. 错误;误会;过失
infatuated /ɪn'fætjʊeɪtɪd/ adj. 入迷的;昏头昏脑的
fade /feɪd/ v. 褪色;凋谢;逐渐消失
relationship /rɪ'leɪʃ(ə)nʃɪp/ n. 关系;关联;一段感情
expert /'ekspɜ: t/ n. 专家;行家
distinct /dɪ'stɪŋ(k)t/ adj. 明显的;独特的
successfully /sək'sesfəlɪ/ adv. 成功地;顺利地
stuck /stʌk/ adj. 被卡住的;不能动的
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Stage 1: Passion and Romance
第一阶段：热情和浪漫
This is the honeymoon or infatuation stage. It is filled with lots of kisses and touching each other for no particular reason. It is when you are completely taken by your mate and are blind to his or her flaws.
这是所谓的蜜月期或迷恋期。即使没有什么特别的原因，你也会不自觉得想要亲吻和触摸你的爱人。你这时已经完全接纳了你的爱人，并且对他/她的缺点视而不见。
passion /'pæʃən/ n. 激情;热情
romance /rə(ʊ)'mæns/ n. 传奇;浪漫
infatuation /ɪn,fætʃʊ'eɪʃ(ə)n/ n. 迷恋;醉心
particular /pəˈtɪkjʊlə(r)/ adj. 特别的;详细的
flaw /flɔ: / n. 瑕疵，缺点
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Stage 2: Getting Serious
第二阶段：开始变得很认真
This is still within the infatuation or honeymoon stage. You are still blinded by love but have the clarity to see that this relationship has long-term potential. This is when the relationship becomes exclusive and you begin making long-term plans with your partner.
在这个阶段你们仍旧会经常手牵手、相互依偎拥抱，或许还会给对方一个可爱的昵称。你开始和你的伴侣分享更私密的自己。
There is still lots of hand-holding, cuddling, and you give each other meaningful nicknames. You begin to share yourself more intimately with your mate.
这时的你们仍处在蜜月期。你仍然被爱情“蒙蔽”着，但你能清楚地看到这段关系的长期潜力。当这段关系变得独一无二的时候，你开始和你的伴侣开始制定恋爱的“长期计划”。
clarity /'klærɪtɪ/ n. 清楚，明晰
potential /pəˈtenʃl/ n. 潜能;可能性
exclusive /ɪk'sklu: sɪv/ adj. 独有的;排外的
cuddle /'kʌd(ə)l/ v. 拥抱;偎依
intimately /ˈɪntəmɪtlɪ/ adv. 熟悉地;亲切地
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Stage 3: Relationship Plateau
第三阶段：关系稳定期
Stage three is when the relationship becomes real. The blinders are off and you see your partner for who they really are. Physical touch like hand-holding, kissing and other forms of physical intimacy may be starting to slow down a bit.
第三阶段是关系开始变得真实的时候。你不再受爱情“蒙蔽”，你看清了你的TA的“真面目”。身体接触——比如手牵手、亲吻和其他形式的肢体接触而产生的亲密感可能会开始慢慢下降。
The hardest part about stage three is that you both begin to question the relationship: where is the passion we used to have for each other? is our love fading away? is he/she the one I can be with for a longer time?
第三阶段最困难的部分是你们都开始质疑这段关系：我们之间的激情呢?我们的爱消逝了吗?TA是我能在一起很久的人吗?
plateau /plæ'to/ n. 高原
intimacy /'ɪntɪməsɪ/ n. 亲密
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Stage 4: Moving Beyond Infatuation
第四阶段：走出迷恋
Once you’ve chosen to move past stage three and to stick with the relationship, you develop a deep and intimate bond. This is the time when couples really begin to merge their lives.
一旦你进入第三阶段，并打算坚持这段感情，你们之间就会形成一种深厚而亲密的关系。这是情侣们真正开始互相融合的时候。
Serious discussions concerning marriage, kids and finances ensue and plans are made to move the couple forward as a unit.
关于婚姻、孩子和财务的严肃讨论随之而来，将情侣们向前推进了一步。
merge /mɜ: dʒ/ v. 合并;吞没
finance /faɪ'næns/ n. 财政;金融
ensue /ɪn'sju: / v. 接着发生;继起
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Stage 5: Becoming a Team
第五阶段：两人成为一个团队
Stage five of the relationship is when the couple becomes a solid team. The relationship moves past “me and you” decision-making and the team becomes more important than the individuals.
情侣关系的第五阶段是当这对情侣开始成为一个稳固的团队。这种关系已经超越了“我和你”，“团队”变得比个人更重要。
It’s when the couple has the best chance of making it to “happily-ever-after.” That’s not to say that there will not be challenges, hardships and bumps in the road. But it does mean that both parties are committed to staying and making the relationship work no matter what.
这是真正的“爱情阶段”。这是让他们“永远幸福”的最好机会。这并不是说在路上不会有挑战、困难和颠簸，但这也意味着，无论如何，双方都会努力维持关系并使之良好运转。
solid /'sɒlɪd/ adj. 固体的;结实的
individual /ˌɪndɪˈvɪdʒʊəl/ adj. 个人的;个别的;n. 个人，个体
challenge /'tʃælɪn(d)ʒ/ n. 挑战;怀疑
hardship /'hα: dʃɪp/ n. 困苦;苦难
committed /kə'mɪtɪd/ adj. 坚定的;效忠的
当你开始感到幻灭的时候，你首先要明白的是，感觉并不能长久地维持一段关系。感觉是不可靠的，因为受情绪和外部因素的影响。
为自己的恋情做点什么吧。不要只是想想而已，指望事情会变得更好。努力使你们的关系更进一步，尝试一些新事物，做伴侣喜欢做的事情，变得浪漫一些。
小伙伴们~你们的爱情正处在第几阶段呢?
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