男人望而却步，只因女人这四点

Dying for the guy at the end of the bar to talk to you? Men share the surprising reasons they stay away.

        渴望在酒吧那头的那个男人和你说话？男人道出了望而却步的惊人秘密。

By Diana Vilibert

      By Diana Vilibert

Sometimes it seems like no amount of silent prayer or aggressive cleavage will get that cute stranger to take a hint and chat you up. Could you be scaring away men before they even approach you? We asked the male members of Marie Claire Ask & Answer — Marie Claire's online Q&A community for dating, sex, and relationship advice — what female behavior makes them scared to go in for the kill.

        有时候，无论再多的默默祷告或是咄咄逼人，也不能让那个英俊的陌生人领会到你的“盛情邀请”从而与你攀谈。会不会在他们靠近你之前，你就把他们吓走了？我们询问了《嘉人Marie Claire》--为约会、性爱、和情感关系提供建议的在线嘉人论坛--男性注册用户，女性的哪些行为会导致男人不敢追求。

You Look Pissed

Hey, perma-scowl: Swap the pouty lips for a genuine, friendly smile and your eye candy for the night will be more likely to approach you. The majority of Answerology men agreed that an unfriendly facial expression will keep them from approaching you, so flash those pearly whites at the guy you've been eyeing!

         你生气了

         嘿，愁容满面的女人，收起撅着的小嘴。真诚友善的笑容和夜晚美丽的妆容，会让男人更想接近你。Answerology网站大多数男性注册用户一致同意，不友善的面部表情会让男人望而却步，因此向你眼中的他微笑吧！

You’re Not Locking Eyes

What's harder than approaching a stranger? Approaching a stranger who hasn't acknowledged your existence with even a brief look. "I need to see, by her looking and smiling at me, that she wants me to approach her. If I don't see it, I don't approach," says Anonymous. So next time you think he catches you looking at him, don't look away — hold your stare for a few seconds so he knows you're looking — and that you like what you see. 

        你眼神游离

        与靠近一个陌生人相比，还有什么是更难的呢？走近一个陌生人，一个没有意识到你的存在，哪怕是仅仅瞅你一眼的陌生人。“看到她朝我微笑，我才知道她是想要我接近的。如果我没看到这个信号，我是不会接近的。”某一无名人士说。所以下次当你认为他正好看到你在瞅着他，不要转移视线--让这种对视保持几秒钟，让他知道你是在看他--你喜欢你看着的。

You’re Too Flirtatious

A chip on your shoulder is a turnoff to any guy waiting to make his approach — but so is the other extreme. istillhatescreennames is put off when women cross the line from friendly to flirty...with everyone they see. "If she's flirting with lots of guys. Nothing like a woman who is basically telling everyone in the place that she's open for business with anyone," he says. "Flirting with everyone" would put him off, agrees Anonymous, adding another pet peeve: "Grinding out on the dance floor (yeah, it's fun to look at but I like to look at strippers too...but I wouldn't take any home to meet my mom)." Sure, he’ll notice you if you’re the loudest, most aggressive girl in the room — but not in a good way.

        你太轻浮

        你生气了，这是向那些想接近你的人发出了拒绝的信号。而这又是另一个极端，即女人没处理好和每一个见到的人的关系，比如从友善变成了轻浮。“如果她和很多人在打情骂俏，和别人说她随时会开始一段新的交往”。某一无名人士说，“和每一个人调情”的行为会让他对这个女人望而却步，并说了一件不能容忍的事，“在舞池里发出刺耳的声音”（是，那样跳舞看起来是有趣，但我也喜欢看脱衣舞女，可我不会把她带回家见我妈）。当然，如果你是这个屋里最大声，最活力四射的女孩，他会注意到你，但这不是一种好方法。

You’re Surrounded by Friends

Admit it — your awesome group of friends can be a little intimidating, especially when a strange guy approaches to hit on just one of you. seanc writes, "Being surrounded by more than one friend makes her less approachable because of the embarrassment of being rejected in front of more people." Make sure you're giving him the opportunity to approach you alone — check out the jukebox and linger for a bit, or offer to grab the next round of drinks for your friends.

         你周围有一群朋友

         承认吧--你周围那群厉害的朋友会成为一点点压力，尤其当一个陌生人靠近只为和你交往时，seanc写到，“有一个以上朋友在场，也会让男人望而却步，因为要面对在很多人面前被拒绝的尴尬”。确信你给他提供了一个可以单独接近你的机会--检查一下自动点唱机让它更久一点，或者抓住为朋友提供饮料酒水的空档机会。