Moderator (Abhijeet): Okay, Sadhguru ji, this is very common in my college and it is true about me and also my friends. So I am in love with a girl and...
主持人（Abhijeet）：萨古鲁，这在我们校园里很普遍，包括我和我的朋友也是如此。我爱一个女孩……
Sadhguru: Ah! (Laughter)
Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：啊！（笑声）
Moderator (Abhijeet): And what happens is that I don’t have the courage to talk to her and this is like a self-doubt that I have. I think that I don’t deserve her. So what to do on this regards? (Laughs/Laughter)
主持人（Abhijeet）：问题是我没有勇气去跟她说话，有点自我怀疑，我觉得自己配不上她，所以我该怎么办呢？
Sadhguru: You are in love with a girl or you’ve fallen in love with a girl?
Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：你爱着一个女孩，还是你坠入了爱河？
Moderator (Abhijeet): Actually, I’ve fall in love.
主持人（Abhijeet）：其实是我坠入爱河了。
Sadhguru: Ok. This happened, before he became a drunk, he was at the Shillong University, Shankaran Pillai. And he was doing his PhD. So one day, he went to his mentor professor and said, “Sir, I need your help on something very important.”
Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：好的。曾经，在Shankaran Pillai成为一个酒鬼前，他就读于Shillong大学，他在攻读博士。有一天，他去导师那里说，“先生，有一件非常重要的事，我需要你的帮忙。”
So the professor said, “Yes, that’s why I am here, please tell me.”
导师说：“当然，我在这里就是为了这个，请说吧。”
Then he named the college beauty and he said, “Sir,I am completely in love with her, I need your help on this.”
然后他说了校花的名字，然后说：“先生，我彻底地爱上了她，我需要你的帮忙。”
“What do you mean, you need my help? I am not here to help you on those kind of matters, I am here for academic purposes.”
“你是什么意思，你需要我的帮忙？我不是来帮你那种忙的，我是来搞学术的。”
He said, “No sir, I am really fifty percent successful. You just need to help me with the other fifty percent.”
他说，“不是啊，先生，我已经成功了50%。你只需要帮我另外的50%。”
He asked, “What is fifty percent success anyway?”
导师问，“成功了50%指的是什么？”
He said, “I am completely in love with her and she doesn’t know, the other fifty percent you must help me.”
他说，“我彻彻底底地爱上了她，但是她不知道，另外的50%你一定要帮我。”
So, just enjoy the love affair because now it’s totally in your control. If you also bring her into the picture, now she will take charge of it. And, I am not saying you should not fall in love with somebody, but don’t be in a rush to live. At this stage in your life, see how to build yourself up into a worthwhile life, then things will come to you in a certain way.
所以，尽管享受这爱恋吧，因为现在它完全在你控制之中。如果你把她也带进来，那就都在她的掌控之中了。我不是说你不该坠入爱河，但不要过于着急生活。在你生命中的这个阶段，看看怎样把自己构建成一个有价值的生命，然后事情就会以某种方式到来。
If you rush into life too early, then, you know, other aspects of growth will get stunted. Because you got emotionally entangled, now immediately the girl says, “I am going to come with you tomorrow morning.” Then immediately, you have to find some job, you have not completed your engineering, you will find one auto-rickshaw to drive. Arey, all these things will happen. Love does all these things to you. So you are having a great love affair, just enjoy it, don’t tell her.
如果你过早地开始为生计奔波，那么，你知道，成长的其它层面就会受到阻碍，因为你受情感的纠葛。现在那个女孩说：“我明早就跟你一起走。”然后马上，你就不得不去找份工作，你还没有完成你的工程专业，你会去做三轮车师傅。所有这些事情都会发生，爱会让你变成这样。你正享有一段很棒的爱恋，就好好享受它吧，不要告诉她。
Moderator (Ria): Sadhguru, I think he also kind of wanted to know about self-doubt that he has, although the context was that, that he’s primarily asking about self-doubt.
主持人（Ria）：萨古鲁，我想他也想知道，关于他的自我怀疑。虽然问题的背景是关于恋爱，他主要是想问自我怀疑。
Sadhguru: See this is not self-doubt, the doubt is about her. How she will respond - that is the doubt. Somewhere when it comes to yourself, the question of whether I am good enough for something, not good enough for something - you should not worry about that. You must just see every day how you can be a better human being than the way you are right now. And then the world, the way it responds, tells you whether you are good enough or not. It’s not for you to think.
Sadhguru（萨古鲁）：看清楚，这不是自我怀疑，而是对她的怀疑，她会怎么回应——这才是怀疑所在。关于你自己，你怀疑自己是否配得上这个或那个，你不应该担心这些。你只要看，每天怎样才能成为比现在的自己更好的人，那么这个世界会以它的方式来回应，告诉你是否足够好，这不用你去想。
See this is why there’s an examination at the end of the year. Why? Because you may think you are a great engineer, but the examination results tell you poo . So this also is like that, you may think I am a hero, but well the girl, she has her opinions. So instead of that, see how to make yourself better, in how many ways, not just the way you look. Because your looks will be ignored after sometime. You have to make yourself better.
这就是为什么到年终会有一个考试，为什么呢？因为你可能认为你是一个很棒的工程师，但是考试的结果告诉你不是。所以这个也像那样，你可能认为自己是一个英雄，可是那个女孩，她有她自己的观点。所以与其那样，不如看看如何让自己变得更好，在很多层面上，不只是你的外表。因为你的外表过一段时间后会被忽略，你必须让自己变得更好。
How to make yourself better? At least you are trying to make yourself into a good engineer, that’s a good idea. Another thing is well, just see - better means what? What is it one thing that always draws people? What is it that one thing that makes a person look wonderful is, it is not the shape of your nose or the point of your chin or your hairstyle or something - a joyful face is always a beautiful face, isn't it so? Your nose can be like this, it doesn’t matter. Joyful face is always a beautiful face. Do that one thing, maybe she will fall in love with you. Just rise and shine. If you rise and shine, everybody will look in that direction, isn't it? Learn to sing, hmm. Sing a song. We can train you if you want. Just one song that may make her fall in love.
如何让自己变得更好？至少你在努力让自己成为一个好的工程师，这是个不错的主意。另外，要明白——更好代表什么？是什么一直最能吸引人呢？是什么让一个人看起来很美妙？不是你鼻子的形状，或者你的尖下巴，或者你的发型，或者其它什么——一张快乐的脸总是一张美丽的脸，是不是这样？你的鼻子可能像这样，但没关系。一张快乐的脸才永远是美丽的，就做那一件事，也许她会爱上你。闪耀、发光起来吧，如果你闪耀着光芒，每个人都会为之注目，是不是？学会唱歌，嗯......唱一首歌。如果你想，我们可以教你，一首能让她坠入爱河的歌。
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