Have you ever set a goal that meant a lot to you and then worked towards it with best intentions only to lose motivation or forget about it or simply blow it? If you answered yes, you’re not alone. Most people fail to achieve goals which is why many rely on New Years to set their resolutions – again! “This time, I’m going to succeed!”………… famous last words…………… how discouraging!
是否你曾经设定过一个对你来说意义非凡的目标，然后以完美的意图去为这个目标而努力，不想却失去动力，或者遗忘这一目标，或者把这个目标给搞砸了？如果你回答是：“是的”，那么，你其实并不孤独。大多数人没有达成目标，这就是为什么许多人会依靠新年来重新下定决心！“这次，我一定会成功的。”！“............著名的遗言...............真令人泄气！
There are many reasons…………… (or excuses?) … for failing to achieve goals. We all see this often in ourselves or others. So what is the real reason goals can be so difficult to achieve? 2 biggest answers:
无法达成目标有很多的原因（或者借口），在自己或者别人身上，我们都会看到。那么，很难达成目标的真实原因是什么呢？有以下2个：
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Poor planning
计划不周
Missing a small but important detail here can cause unexpected delays, lack of resources, missed opportunities, setbacks, disappointment, excuses………etc.
错过某个很小，却很重要的细节，都会导致意想不到的耽搁，缺乏资源，错过机会，受到挫折，失望，借口，等等。
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Lack of reason why
缺乏想要达成目标的真正理由
This may sound simple but did you ever think that your reason why you want to achieve a particular goal may not be your real reason why? That makes no sense, I know, but I challenge you to think about it for a second. We all focus on the obvious ie: get the promotion for the money, lose weight to be thin, etc. Those reasons are good but they are often not deep enough to push you through till the end. You already know that spot, sk, "our goal? What will that look like, sound like, feel like, you can reach your goal. In that case sometimes, reaching goals can be challenging because it can require doing things you don’t enjoy, sacrifices, changing habits – ugh, I’m discouraged just thinking about it!! But, it’s crucial. Spend a moment contemplating WHY you want that particular outcome? For example: What will being thin bring you besides smaller clothes? How will it feel? What will that extra money do for you? How will it feel? How will your life change? Your real reason why is how it will feel. Everything else is merely a vehicle to that feeling. Once you uncover your real reason and let yourself start feeling it, as if you already have it (that’s important!), it will be much easier to stay focused and enthusiastic along the way even when times get tough.
听起来可能确实是非常简单，但你是否认为想达成某个目标的原因可能并非真正的理由？这其实说不通，但请你再想一想。换言之，我们都把注意力集中在显而易见的事情上：薪资上涨，减肥瘦身，等等。这些理由都还不错，但往往不够深入，去推到你到达最后。你已经知道知道这一点！ 我们的目标？看起来怎么样，听起来像，感觉像，你是可以达成目标的。在这种情况下，有时，达成目标是具有挑战性的，因为，这要求你去做你并不喜欢的事情，牺牲，及改变习惯–呃，我气馁，只是会想着这个目标！但是，这很关键！请花点时间去想想为什么你想要那个特定的结果？例如：除了可以穿较小衣服之外，瘦能为你带来什么？感觉如何？多余的资金对你有什么好处？感觉如何？你的生活将如何改变？其实，真正的原因感觉怎么样，而其他的一切只不过是那种感觉的载体罢了。一旦你发现了真正的理由，让自己去感受，就像你已经拥有（这一点很重要！）即使在艰难的时候，也要保持前进的方向和热情，这会让事情变得相对容易一些。
To help that along, here are your Really Awesome Questions to help you plan more effectively as you create and pursue your goals. This can be useful for yourself or while helping others; great questions to ask during performance management sessions, after confronting a difficult situation, while raising teenagers! Yes, it works with them too!! Some of these questions may not apply to your exact situation but as you read, I’m sure you’ll find a few gems that can identify a blind spot, clarify your direction and enable stronger success.
为了帮助这一点，以下这些真正很棒的问题，能帮助你在建立和追求目标时，可以更高效地进行计划。这对你自己有用，而且也能帮助到别人；在绩效管理会议上，在面对困难情形时，在抚养青少年时，这些都是很好的问题！是的，使用这些问题是说得通的！注意！有些问题，可能并不适用于你的实际情况，不过正如你所读到的，我相信你会发现其中的一些是能识别盲点、阐明方向，并取得更大成功的宝石。
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16 Awesome Questions16大很好的问题
Use the following for extra clarity; empowering; confidence building; motivation; compliance and higher achievement. Some questions might identify a need to accomplish or acquire something else before you can reach your goal. In that case – alter your process and go for it!
为简明起见，请使用如下的问题！授权；树立信心；动机；顺从，以及更高的成就。有些问题，可能会在你达成目标之前，识别出必须完成，或者需要得到其他的东西。如果是那样的话，请改变流程，放手去做吧！
1.What would you like to achieve by the end of the year? ………in 3, 5, 10 years, etc?
你在年底（3年/5年/10年，等等）要达成的目标是什么?
2.How realistic is that?
实际情况是怎么样的？
3.How will you know you achieved your goal? What will you see, feel, hear, etc.?
你是怎么知道自己达成了目标？你会看到什么，感觉到什么，听到什么？等等
4.What do you need to do to make this happen?
想要达成目标，你需要做什么？
5.What might get in your way?
有什么可能会妨碍到你？
6.How will you overcome, prevent or avoid that?
你将如何克服、阻止，或者避免呢？
7.What resources do you have available to you now?
你目前拥有哪些合适的资源？
8.What additional resources will you need?
你还需要什么额外的资源？
9.How will you go about acquiring those additional resources?
那你如何去获取那些额外的资源？
10.On a scale of 1 – 5 how willing are you to do what it takes to make this happen?
在1到5的范围内，你愿意做些什么来实现这一目标？
11.If the answer to #10 is less than a 5, what will it take to make it a 5?
如果上一题小于5，怎么样才能达到5?
12.When would you like to accomplish this?
你想什么时间完成这一目标呢？
13.Based on all you are facing, how realistic is your time frame?
基于实际面临的情况，时间期限性如何呢？
14.What milestones will you acknowledge along the way?
15.How will you reward yourself for your milestones and larger accomplishments?
在重要阶段和取得较大的成就时，你如何奖励自己？
16.If you’re assisting someone else ask, “How can I support you on this?”
如果在帮助别人，你会问：“我怎么样去支持到你呢？”
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