【愛情感悟 - 婚姻裡女人堅決不能做的傻事】

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在婚姻裡，很多女人都覺得自己的犧牲和付出實在太多，而得到的卻太少，然而，若真做到了自我反省時，我們又會發現，女人確實犧牲了很多，付出了很多，但方法方式卻往往不太正確甚至有違人性。如此一來，婚姻失敗也就勢在必行了。所以說，若想擁有幸福婚姻，女人堅決不能做以下9件足以破壞婚姻的傻事！

1.把男人拴在褲腰帶上

現今恐婚族裡，男人佔多半。而男人之所以恐婚，不僅僅是經濟上的問題，更重要的是為此要失去自由，這才是男人面對婚姻最恐慌的根源。而結婚後女人最不該做的第一件傻事，便是剝奪了男人的自由。比如妨礙他與那些狐朋狗友喝酒，比如整天盯著他的手機疑神疑鬼，再就是，把男人的錢袋洗劫一空，連個買煙喝酒的錢都不給留。你讓天生就有闖蕩世界念想、以征服世界為終極目標的男人，情何以堪？說嚴重點，你這不是讓男人失去了自由，而是讓他徹底沒了尊嚴。

2.歧視他的家人，希望他和家人少來往

有些女人著實可笑，對他可以愛到不顧一切，什麼都願意為他去做，卻獨獨不喜歡他與他的家人來往，甚至歧視他的家人。可是你有想過沒有，沒有他的父母，怎麼會有你的他？他的父母再不好，終究是生他養他的人。不要認為男人娶了你，他就是你的了。他不僅僅屬於你，同時也屬於他的父母他的兄弟姐妹。就好比你不僅僅是他的老婆，也是你父母的女兒，你兄弟姐妹的姐姐或妹妹是一樣的道理。愛他，就安心接受他的家人吧，做不到把他的父母當自己的父母一樣看待，至少也要做到彬彬有禮。

3.掌握經濟大權，認為錢在手裡就等於控制了男人

或許，你覺得在家庭裡掌握了經濟大權，錢都在你手裡，你便有了安全感，就能很好地控制男人的行為。其實，男人樂得做甩手掌櫃，不是因為他不喜歡錢，而是他足夠信任你，認為這是愛你的一種表現方式。你別天真地以為，只要他手裡沒錢，他就沒辦法胡作非為。要知道，男人想藏點私房錢，那是輕而易舉的一件小事。就算他真的沒錢，他若決意離家出走，也總是想得出辦法離開你的。所以，適當地鬆松你手裡的線，否則引起他的反感事小，惹急了他玩起失踪再不回來可就得不償失了。

4.偷窺男人的隱私，希望男人是純粹的透明人

反正呢，我對透明人是一點興趣都沒有。你想啊，我還沒怎麼著呢，就一眼看透了身邊的這個男人，那還有什麼意思呢？結婚三五年後，人生便開始步入平淡無奇甚至無聊的境地，而一個沒有一點隱私的男人早就被你看透，你說你後半生的幾十年，真就是說有多無聊就有多無聊了。更何況，你也有屬於自己的秘密，不希望讓他知道的。那麼，就讓他也留點隱私吧，哪怕你早就知道他這個隱私了，也別去揭穿。彼此都給對方留點神秘感，婚姻也就有了那麼一點意思。更何況，你整天頻頻追問他到底跟誰約會去了，那個陌生的電話號碼是誰的，一直將男人逼到牆角，非要問出個子丑寅卯來不可，讓你的男人像一個犯人一樣，你覺得好玩嗎？別忘了，有些男人的出軌就是這樣被女人逼出來的。

5.把男人當成參天大樹，嫁個男人就可以萬事大吉

不知道是這世界變化快，還是真的因為活得太累，現如今的女人，貌似個個都奢望嫁個有錢的好老公，過上衣來伸手、飯來張口、出門有車坐、回家有人陪的生活。如此一來，再也不用出去打拼，為了幾毛錢和賣菜的老大媽討價還價的。只是，不是每個男人都能成為李澤楷，你也不配做李澤楷那樣男人的老婆！更何況，在當今壓力頗大的社會中，男人也難，也累，所以男人也希望女人能夠經濟獨立，至少可以適當地貼補家用或者哪怕你的衣服都是自己賺錢買的也好啊！當然咯，你會說嫁漢嫁漢穿衣吃飯，這是沒錯的，但你把男人當成參天大樹，把自己的一生都託付給男人，讓男人為你負責一輩子，而你只是坐享清福，似乎有點過分咯！

而且，隨著青春的消逝，不能自立的女人會令男人性趣全無，失去寵愛的機率也越來越大。難不成你願意年輕時享盡他的寵溺，年老色衰時便成了棄婦？不要再抱怨了，一個女人，其實真正展示魅力的時候是在30歲之後，而這份魅力的主要養料，便是獨立，經濟的獨立，繼而才是精神上的獨立。

6.將男人當孩子寵溺

女人的母性是天生的，而且特別容易氾濫到愛情之上。導致很多女人，以為只要將男人當孩子一樣去寵溺，他就會乖乖地留在你身邊陪你地老天荒。可是，偶爾的溺愛倒是一種享受，長此以往，男人的尊嚴便會被你扒光，直至徹底丟掉。而在婚姻的天平上，男人和女人是平等互利的，你能指望一個孩子似的男人會維護好與你的婚姻，給你想要的幸福嗎？更何況，男人娶的是老婆，而不是媽。

7.管不住自己的嘴，讓嘮叨氾濫成災

據說，在婚姻中最令男人反感的女人缺點之一，便是嘮叨，而且這是全世界所有男人的共識。所以，不管你有多心煩，你有多少心事需要傾訴，多少委屈需要對他發洩，都不要讓自己變成喜歡碎碎念、拿老公當洩憤垃圾桶的女人。若你確實想得到他的安慰，就學會用你的眼淚吧，眼淚是製服男人最有力的武器，當然，你也別整天哭哭啼啼沒完沒了的令他反感！

8.每天都要逼問幾次，你愛不愛自己

男人是視覺動物，女人是聽覺動物。所以男人喜歡看美女，女人喜歡聽男人不斷地說“我愛你”，以此來保障自己內心的安全感。然而，若是天天逼問男人，你到底愛不愛我，你有多愛我，只怕到頭來會讓男人落荒而逃。其實最好的辦法，就是始終保持自己的個性及獨立自主的精神頭，就算他不會說我愛你，也絕對守住你，與你白頭偕老，給你一份安穩的婚姻生活！

9.在外是精裝本，在家變身簡裝本

對於男人來講，女人的身體是最具有誘惑力的武器。然而，如今的女人似乎都本末倒置了，每天都精心打扮自己，讓自己成了別人眼裡的精裝本，一旦回到家裡，便不再全副武裝，令家裡的男人對你的身體與相貌一覽無餘，活脫脫一個再普通不過的簡裝本。寧願讓外人欣賞你優美的身姿及得體的妝容，也不喜歡在家裡成為精裝本給老公一個人欣賞。還美名其曰在外邊那樣是沒辦法，為了給人家留個好印象，而自己家裡要徹底放鬆才是對的。

其實，這樣的想法是女人最大的誤區，你在外邊再婀娜多姿，引來的不過是一時的驚艷及毫無意義的回頭率，人家看過了，欣賞過了，也就過去了。誰會記住你此刻的驚豔妝容及優美的身姿？可在家裡卻不一樣，你引來的是自己男人對你的欣賞和刻骨銘心的激情！有時候，陳世美不是不想做個絕世好男人，只是女人在自家男人面前，穿得跟大街上賣菜、賣小食品的大姐一樣，自然也就把好男人推到了別的女人懷裡。

In Marriage, many women feel sacrifice and pay too much, and get only a few, however, if you really did it. Self-reflection, and we will find that woman indeed. Many sacrifices, pay. A lot of ways, but the way but often not correct even is against humanity. As a result, the marriage failed in jiù shì must also. So, if you want to have a happy marriage, women strongly can't do the following 9 things enough to damage the marriage something stupid!

1. Man tied to dicey in here

Now why people in marriage, predominantly men. While a man is afraid of marriage, is not only economic issues, the more important it is for this reason to lose freedom, this is the face of marriage man the root cause of the panic. And after marriage a woman shouldn't do anything stupid. The first thing, is deprived of a man's freedom. Like hinder him with those friends drink all day, for example, staring at his phone, paranoid, is another man's money bag looting, even buy a smoke drink money are not to stay. You were born with a traveled the world to read, to conquer the world for the ultimate goal of man, awkward? Say something serious, you not let this man lost her freedom, but let him completely without dignity.

2. Discrimination against his family, I hope he and his family.

Some women are truly ridiculous, he can love to all, regardless of what you are willing to do for him, but only don't like him and his family, or even discrimination between his family. But have you ever thought, no his parents, how could you have him? His parents not good again, after all, it was born, he raised his people. Don't think a man marry you, he is yours. He not only belongs to you, while also belong to his parents, his brothers and sisters. Just like you are not just his wife, also a daughter of your parents, your brothers and sisters, sister or sister is the same reason. Love him, and can accept his family, can't do it to his parents when their parents the same way, at least to do mannered.

3. Grasp the economic power, believe that money in your hand, they controls man

Maybe, you feel at home in the economic power, money is in your hands, you will have a sense of security, it could very well to control a man's behaviour. In fact, men do shuǎi shǒu zhǎng guì happy, not because he doesn't like money, but he trust you enough, think this is love you the way to a performance. You don't be naive to think, as long as his hands. No money, he just can't take liberties. You know, the guy wants to put some money, that's easy a little thing. Even if he really don't have money, and if he decided to run away from home, and always want to leave you that way. So, due to loosen your hands in line, or cause his offensive is something small, provoked. He played the missing never to return will be in vain.

4. Spied on the man's privacy, hope that man is pure transparent people

Anyway, I'm a transparent person is not interested at all. You want to, ah, I haven't what, just look around you see through this man, there are still what do you mean? Three married five years later, life started into something even boring situation, and a little privacy without a man was see through you, you said you later in life a few decades, so that means a lot more than just a boring boring . What's more, you also have your own secret, don't want to let him know. So, just let him have some privacy here, even if you knew him this privacy, also don't go to expose. Each other give each other a bit of a mystery, marriage and there is also a bit. So mean. What's more, you all frequently asked what does he go on a date with who, that strange phone number, who is the man always will be forced to the corner, have to ask the tall ugly san mao come, let your boy like a prisoner. What do you think that's funny? Don't forget, some men of cheating is like being forced out of the woman.

5. Men as numerous defeats big tree, marry a man can be all right.

Don't know what this world is changing fast, or really because live too tired, are now woman, it looks like everyone is to marry a rich good husband, T-shirt to hand to mouth, rice, went out, got a ride home. Someone with life. As a result, no longer have to work hard, go out for a few cents and sell vegetables lǎo dà mā of bargaining. It's just that, not every man can become Richard Li, you don't deserve u do Richard Li like that man's wife! Not to mention, in today's pressure sizeable community, the man also difficult, too tired, so man also hope that woman is able to economic independence, at least can properly supplement household or even if your clothes are all their own money to buy as well! Of course, you would say marry marry han han dress for dinner, this isn't wrong, but you get men as numerous defeats big tree, his whole life to the man, let the man responsible for your life, and you just sit and enjoy Chin Foo, seems a bit excessive!

And, with the passing of youth, cannot be an independent woman will blueball the lost love, no chances of getting too big. Does it mean that you're willing to when I was young and his favour, in the end when they became qì fù? Stop complaining, a woman, actually show real time is the charm of the 30-Year-old, and the charm of major nutrients, is independent, economic independence, and then is the spirit of independence.

6. Will be a man when the child coddling

A woman's motherhood is born, and particularly vulnerable to flooding to love. Lead to many women, thought if i will be the same as men when the kids go to the indulgent, he'll be a good boy and stay by your side to accompany you forever. However, occasional indulgence is a pleasure, in the long run, with the dignity of men would have been you stripped away until thoroughly. While in the balance of the marriage, the man and woman are mutually beneficial cooperation, you can count on a child of a man will maintain good with your marriage, you want to be happy? What's more, a man marry a wife, not mom.

7. Don't leave your mouth, let nag overrun

It is said that in marriage, in the most offensive man one woman shortcomings, nag, and this is all over the world. Man's consensus. So, no matter how much you upset, how much you got in mind need to talk to, how many sorrowful he need to vent, don't let yourself become like nagging husband, take the trash out of spite when the woman. If you really want his comfort, just learn to use your tears, tears man uniform is the most powerful weapon, and, of course, you also don't weepy all day ending his offensive!

8. Every day to me a few times, you love don't love yourself

Men are visual creatures, the woman is hearing animal. So men like to see the beauty, women like to hear a man constantly say "I love you" to safeguard their inner sense of security. However, if a man sometimes. Everyday, what do you love me, how much you love me, but at the end it will make a man. Actually, it's the best way, is always keep your own personality and independent spirit of the head, even if he wouldn't say " I love you, too. Definitely hold you, grow old together with you, give you a peaceful marriage life!

9. Outside is hardcover book, home shapeshift jiǎn zhuāng this

For Men, a woman's body is most tempting weapons. Now, however, the woman seems to put the cart before the horse. Every day, dress yourself, make yourself into the eyes of others hardcover book, once back home, no longer heavily armed men, the man in the house for your body and appearance, someone. A huó tuō tuō again but the ordinary jiǎn zhuāng this. I would rather let outsiders appreciate you beautiful posture and proper makeup, did not like at home become a hardcover book to give my husband a person to admire. Its reputation also called on the outside that is no way, in order to give people leave a good impression, and my own home to truly relax is right.

Actually, the idea of a woman's biggest misunderstandings, you on the outside again, embodied to, but it's a fad stunning and pointless back rate, they've seen it, seen it, and I will be the past. . Who will remember you at this moment of stunning makeup and beautiful posture? Available at home but not the same, you bring your own man is for you to enjoy and heartfelt passion! Sometimes, Chen Shimei not don't want to be a good man, the only woman in front of his own men, dressed and on the street, sell sell vegetables small food's big sister, it is natural to also push a good man to another woman in his arms.

制作日期：2016.10.31.

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