如何积极面对负面评价?

        Even if the feedback is given to you in a constructive manner, youmay still think it's unfair towards you and you may get veryemotional in front of the person who gave you that feedback.　　　即使给你的是建设性的反馈，你也许还是会觉得不公平，于是，你可能会在给你这种反馈的人面前变得很情绪化。
　　
　　This makes the situation even worse.　
　　这样，只会让情况更糟糕。
　　
　　Are you ready to face the criticism?　　
　　你准备好接受评价了吗？
　　
　　At some point, you are going to have to face criticism in whatyou do. However, what makes the difference between the ones whosucceed and those who don't is the way they handlecriticism.　　
　　有时候，你不得不硬着头皮接受评价。然而，笑到最后的人与哭到最后的人的差别就在于他们用什么方式处理批评。
　　
　　The people, who are going to fail, are taking the critique verypersonally and fail to take corrective action based on thefeedback. They think that the person who gave criticism is wrongand doesn't know what he/she is talking about.　
　　那些拒绝采用评价中建设性建议的人，最终走向失败。他们固执的认为评论他们的人大错特错并且不知其所云。
　　
　　On the other hand, the people who are successful understand thatfeedback is required in order to grow. It can also improve yourresults and let you become even more successful.　
　　然而，那些为了自身塑造发展，从容的采用负面评价中的建议，最终走向成功。他们明白，这样才能让工作完成的更出色，才能让自己更上一层楼。
　　
　　In fact, if you are receiving feedback, you should be gratefulfor it. Appreciate the fact that someone gave you valuable adviceon how to become better in what you do or how to achieve betterresults in your work.　　
　　事实上，如果有人给你评价，你应该感激他。要知道他给你的是让你变得更好的宝贵建议。
　　
　　Learn to listen carefully　
　　学着认真听取
　　
　　Although hearing feedback is never easy, it is necessary for ourgrowth and development. In order to handle the feedback in theright manner, see it as constructive criticism.　
　　尽管负面评价很逆耳，但它是我们成长的必需品。想要很好的处理负面评价，最好的方式就是把它当作建设性的建议去听取，去接受。
　　
　　If the criticism is unjustified or goes to a personal level, thenit should be ignored.
　　如果评价带有污蔑或者个人情感，那么你完全可以无视他的评价。
　　
　　Appreciate the feedback and the fact that the other person waswilling to give it to you. Especially if the feedback is comingfrom someone who you look up to, so you should be genuinelygrateful for him/her.
　　如果别人给你的是中肯的评价，要慢慢领会并且感谢他们，尤其是来自那些你尊敬的人给你的负面评价。
　　
Even though appreciation plays a big part in how you handle thefeedback, it is not enough. In fact, what you do (or don’t do) nextplays a big part how helpful the feedback turns out to be.
虽然感激在处理这些负面评价时有着举足轻重的作用，但是光感激是不够的。事实上，下面几招对于处理负面评价更有用处。

       It’s your responsibility to take action after receiving feedbackfrom your actions or from your work. Otherwise the time spent onthe feedback is wasted and you won’t be able to improve as quicklyas the reviewer wanted.
       当收到关于你行为和工作的负面评价时，你有必要采取行动。否则，评价只是徒劳，你也无法如期望的那样有所改善。

       4 tips for handling criticism
       4招教你处理负面评论

       In order to handle the criticism better, remember these steps thenext time:
       以下几步让你更好的处理负面评论：

       1. Appreciate.The number one thing to do is to appreciate thefeedback, since it is a great way to improve yourself and youractions. Feeling grateful helps with handling the criticism - itmakes accepting it much easier.
       1.学会领悟。首先要领悟这些负面评价，这样你才会在各个方面有所改善。让你更容易接受这些评论。

       2. Take it constructively.Take the feedback as constructive, not asdamaging. There are times when you might receive feedback which isnot justified, but those cases exist far less than the constructiveones. Understand the value of criticism and that it is a great wayto reach success faster. It’s much better to receive it, ratherthan to live in your own fantasy world thinking that everything isalright.
       2.学会接受。把负面评价当做中肯的建议而不是恶意诽谤。有时候你可能会得到一些污蔑性的评价，但这种情况会很少。试着仔细推敲评价让你更近一步迈向成功。学会接受，而不是躲在自己的幻想世界里安慰自己。

       3. Say thank you.Genuinely thank the person who gave you thefeedback. Really, say it. Sometimes the person might be surprisedat this behavior, but his/her feedback is really a useful tool forcreating something much better in the future.
       3.学会感谢。衷心的感谢那些给你评价的人。当然，感谢是要说出来。也许对方会很意外你的这种举动，但是他/她的评价是帮你创造更美好的未来的有力工具。

       4. Take action.Finally, the feedback is useless if it’s not actedupon. That’s why it’s important to implement the points that theother person gave you the feedback about.
       4.立刻行动。最后，如若不立即采取措施，那些评价就会变得毫无价值了。这就是为什么别人给了评论之后我们要尽自己最大努力去补救。

       The faster you take corrective action, the better.
       越快采取正确行动，负面评价越有用。

       Otherwise there is a great danger that you are never fully learningabout the feedback that was given to you.

       不然，你将不能完全从苦口婆心的评价中学到东西。